Should I leave or Should I try to work it out?

If I threw a coin in the air, it might almost always land on a couple asking themselves, ‘Should I leave this relationship or should I just stay and try to work it out.  There may be so many factors that are telling them to leave, like the number of broken promises or broken trust.  Unresolved issues that have been going on for so long it's beyond redemption. Then there are good points to stay like my partner is good with the kids, my family…

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Questions people ask me when they find out I am a couples counsellor.

I had my haircut today and my lovely hairdresser asked me what I did for a living.  I guess it was her way to create a relationship with me and have an excellent girly natter as she did my hair.  I told her I was a couple’s counsellor, which made her intrigued.  After chit-chatting while she gave my hair and scalp a good scrub, she asked me this question; So, I guess communication is key to a good relationship? In my head, I had a…

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The Magic of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy.  The therapy looks at how couples relate to one another and how they respond to requests or bids for attention.  Together the therapist and the couple will look at the patterns in the relationship that is not working.  Steps are taken to learn how to change those patterns and respond better. Couples learn to have a healthier relationship, build trust and feel loved. Couples who come for therapy usually complain they have had enough of their partner’s behaviour. Either…

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Don’t go to bed angry is a myth.

One advice I was given when I was a newlywed was 'never go to be when you're angry.' I took that to heart and tried to follow that advice but I don't think it works. Hello my loves, Recently I read an article by The Gottmans, who are THE gurus of love and relationships, said that it's ok to go to bed angry. You see in an experiment, the Gottmans told a couple who were fighting to take a break by reading a magazine. After…

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