How do we stop arguing?

For this post, I reference; Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. Little, Brown & Co., New York. Let's be clear, all couples argue. Some couples have a long relationship and still argue and some couples don't. Well, arguments and disagreements can have two effects. It can either be an opportunity to grow and look into your partner's need and deepening the relationship. Or couples can get into patterns of argument that can be a source of distress.…

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The 3 Demon Dialogues that tear couples relationship apart.

For this post I reference; Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Dr. Sue Johnson, 2008. Little, Brown & Co., New York. Couples usually say they are fighting about the Finances, Children or sex. Some couples also say that their communication has broken down or they cannot communicate well. Other couples point the finger of blame at their partner and that he/she needs to change her ways before they can find a solution. What's happening to the couples is just the tip…

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What do couples really argue about?

For this post, I reference;Young, M. (2005). Creating a Confluence: An Interview With Susan Johnson and John Gottman. The Family Journal: Counseling and Therapy for Couples and Families, 13(2), 219-225. I posed the same question to some of my friends and they gave me so many answers. With their permission let me share with you some of them. Not respecting one anotherNot respecting each other's boundariesNot doing the dishes or cleaning upBeing told what to do over and over again!They fight about moneyThe childrenSex All…

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Why am I blogging?

Hi there, my name is Azah and I am a relationship counsellor and I specialise in couple counselling. I have been a counsellor for almost 10 years now. I am originally from Malaysia but now I am based in London. I have a drive in me to learn how to have a relationship and what a good relationship looks and feels like. I think it comes from wanting to better my own relationships and myself. And that led me to a career in counselling and…

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